I was recently observing a young person rebel and resist his parents…the people who he most loves, and the ones who are trying the hardest to help him. Why do we do that? Why do we resist our family?
- Because we believe they will always love us, and they will never forsake us
- Because they constantly give us their unsolicited opinion
I am guilty of both of those. I love my kids unconditionally. But, I tend to open my mouth and tell them what I think…even though they didn’t ask for my opinion. Somehow, it is easier with others…I can leave them alone and let them make their own mistakes. But it is just harder with my kids.
As parents of adults, we have to work hard to withhold our opinions. (After all, we have opinions about everything).
Once the kids become adults, we must treat them like adults. It doesn’t matter that we will always see them as our little two year old kids!
And if you are the adult child: Consider listening to your parents when they offer their thoughts. They might just see something that you don’t. Better yet, start the conversation on a good tone by asking them what they think…and then listen. Then, you are freed up to make your own decision with more information.
Thanks for listening.