I enjoyed this article by that title, written by Alastair Bryan Sterne from Asbury Theological Seminary. He said:
“As Christians, we are a people with convictions, and this is particularly perplexing for us when dialoguing with others. Our convictions can lead to hot tempers infused with aggressive and careless words…people who are good at being civil often lack strong convictions, and people who have strong convictions often lack civility. We face a dilemma: falling into either category compromises truth. You can compromise truth for the sake of being civil, or you can compromise truth by your lack of civility – by being right in all the wrong ways.”
I struggle with this tension as well. How do I speak truth without creating barriers…or hurting the person I am speaking to?
The book “Crucial Conversations” was very helpful to set things in perspective. I hope you will consider getting your own copy and digesting the contents!