The challenge in bringing our life into balance is that we mis-diagnose where the pressure comes from. If you stop and think about it, we feel the pressure on those things that are consciously (or unconsciously) our lowest priority.
- If I think all my pressure comes from my job, it’s because I’ve taken care of other priorities and there isn’t enough time left to get my job done
- If I think all my pressure comes from my family, it’s because I’ve given my time to other priorities and there isn’t any time left for the ones I love
- If I think all my pressure comes when I try to take a vacation, it’s because I’ve given everything to everyone else and don’t have any leftovers for ME
If something is a priority, we protect it and do not allow anything else to un-balance it. It is only the lowest priority items that feel as thought they are causing us pressure.
- I value my family, so I protect my time with them
- But I also value my job (it pays the bills), so I protect my time at work.
It’s the rest of my discretionary time that should feel the pressure. When you feel pressure (to become un-balanced), what do you blame for the pressure you feel? Work? Family? Hobbies? Rest? Prayer?
I submit those items are not the issue. They are equally important…but they have different amounts of time that should be allocated. Our pressure comes from violating those boundaries…and therefore our pressure is our own fault.
Thanks for listening.