I am working with several couples who are struggling with conflict in their marriage. There is almost a universal characteristic where a disagreement escalates…things get said…feeling are hurt…and the moment becomes unrecoverable.
Everyone tries to push to resolution through logic and reasoning…but TRUE resolution comes from calm, caring, loving responses. There is a place for logic in a disagreement, but not when things escalate. As the conflict heats up, logic becomes harmful to true communication. Eventually, someone reacts with true hurtful intentions.
I was watching this promo from Les & Leslie Parrott where he explained “you can be dead wrong and it’s okay as long as you are genuine, authentic, and truly trying to understand the other person.”
If you find yourself in an escalating conflict, spend less time and energy trying to be right and spend more time and energy trying to be loving, kind, and authentically listening.
Thanks for listening…authentically (smile)!