My friend Tavie posted some comments on this post and I think her words are worth sharing with everyone:
Lack of clarity can be one source of becoming stuck, and I find that if a task gets too big in my mind (whether it is in reality or not), or if the personal price of getting it wrong is too great emotionally/relationally, even when the goals are clear, I can become stuck. As our friends says, I am “procrastductive” by doing other things that also need to be done, but that help me avoid the task. Then, of course, the longer I take to get to it, the bigger/uglier it gets and I’m caught in that downward spiral. There are several ways to recover:
a) Pray for guidance, then suck it up, buttercup! 🙂 and face the beast. Break it down into smaller chunks (mentally and on paper), and get after those, one by one, doing the ‘next right thing’ each time. At least half the time, the humongous beast on the wall was really the shadow of a mouse in front of a light bulb. Then again, I just faced a beast that really was a beast, but I learned good skills in the process of conquering it.
b) Others can help you get unstuck if they are involved in your stuck-ness on the emotional/relational level – letting you know that they’ll suspend the judgement/repercussions you fear and that they really just want to see progress, as well as reinforcing how important to them noticeable progress is, can be the boost that gets you over the hurdle and able to do a) above
c) Be so efficient in your “procrasductiveness” you run out of all the other low hanging fruit such that the only thing left is the big, fat, hairy beast. Then see a) above. Of course, having a deadline is always a good forcing factor, regardless of how many other things can/should be done.