I recently observed one of my project leaders (and a member of his team) engage in a very public (and intense) cycle of conflict. During the 3-day process from start to finish, I found myself in deep admiration of both men. They gave each other respect, and handled the situation with great honor. Because of their high character, the entire team learned from the experience.
You see, we can’t avoid the conflict. High performing people on high performing teams will always have disagreements. The secret to success is how we respond when it occurs.
Here are just a few of the lessons I was reminded of by watching them:
- When under pressure of a disagreement, we must take control of our emotions and submit to the authority of leaders above us. If we don’t make ourselves bow, the leader has to make us bow. Neither person wants that to happen.
- After the flare-up, someone needs to act quickly to apologize, mend fences, and clean up the mess. Otherwise, the entire team suffers.
- When we stay mad at someone, we are giving them too much power over our lives. To stay mad for 24 hours is to waste an entire day of our lives.
- If we fail to learn the lessons God has for us, we are destined to repeat them over and over again. The faster we learn from our mistakes, the faster we can begin the awesome journey that God has prepared for us.
These are just a few…do you have any to add?
Thanks for listening.