One of my friends was planning to confront his son over the way he was running a business that my friend was “supporting” (you know what that means – my friend was bankrolling his son). The business losses were not steep, but they were starting to grow.
His brother stopped him and said:
“Over the last 40 years, you and I have met with bankers, the IRS, customers, vendors, and others who were very unhappy with the results of our business. Don’t you remember how nice everyone always was to us? Yes, the meetings were always serious. Yes, there were life-changing implications to the negotiations. But we didn’t have to spend two days cooling down before we could get to work.”
Why would you slow down your son’s ability to respond because of clogging up his emotions with your anger? Why not be nice to him like others were nice to us?”
How about you? Do you blast others and force them into a cooling-down period before they can get to work? Why?
Wouldn’t it be better to cool down yourself before confronting others?
Thanks for listening.