Most people think that “Difficult Conversions” means that conflict is involved in the discussion. But for introverts like me, all conversations have the potential to become difficult. They consume a lot of personal energy…and can deplete our strength. Introverts learn coping mechanisms to manage the drain, but there is always drain.
Michael Hyatt delivered an incredible post yesterday entitled “Strategies to Become a Better Conversationalist.” If you struggle in this area (introvert or not), I highly recommend it to you. Please don’t skip it due to its’ length. If you need help, this is an excellent resource! Here is a short gold nugget:
I only have one rule at my house. The rule is this. I call it the one conversation rule. It basically means we’re going to have one conversation. We can talk about anything you want, whatever you want. I have some questions prepared, but we don’t have to do those. We can talk about whatever we want, but I’m just going to ask that there be no side conversations and that we have one conversation.” I have never found anything to be more transformative to conversation and to deep, intimate connection with people than this rule. The reason for this… when a lot of people are talking, it’s so easy to be distracted. You’re kind of trying to be present with the person who is talking to you, but you’re hearing these side conversations off to the side.
As I think about it, this is extremely valuable for everyone…even extroverts who can monopolize the conversation. You can learn from this too!
Thanks for listening!