When a friend of mine felt that his employer had failed to live up to an implied commitment about his pay, he became angry and their conversation escalated. It got so intense that a co-worker had to knock on the door and make sure they had not gotten into a physical altercation. Essentially my friend questioned his employers integrity by saying (shouting) “your character is showing”.
Honestly, I have no idea who is right and who is wrong. But I do know this: “If you back a dog into a corner, you’re going to get bitten.” It would not surprise me to find out that my friend’s tenure with that company is on a countdown timer.
When he reached out to others for wisdom, my friend Jimmy was ready with these nuggets of wisdom:
- You’ve called him out for his character…now you had better show yours for what it is
- You owe him an apology for your outburst (not necessarily for the disagreement)
- You owe him an honest day’s work for an honest day’s pay
- You owe him respect. Do not talk about him behind his back to the other employees
- You need to be still, get thoughtful, and go to God in prayer
- You need God’s peace in your heart
- You need God’s wisdom on what to do next
- You need God’s favor over your financial provision
- You need to decide if you want to be an employer or an employee
- You have run your own company before and you have worked for others. You have to pick which is right for you.
- It’s a choice between more financial income or more personal freedom. You don’t get both.
- Include your wife in this decision. She is your partner and your best friend. You can’t do this alone.
- Your next (and best) opportunity will present itself in due time.
- You have to be patient and give God time to work
- No one can hurt you without God’s permission
- Therefore, do not short-change items 1-3 to get to #4. God will not honor that leap.
How about you? Are you short-changing any of these steps?
Thanks for listening.