It is the greatest gift you can give another person.
Last week, I attended a funeral where the family and friends shared memories like this:
- “He seemed as though he had limitless capacity for time”
- “He made everyone feel like they are the only person in the room”
- “He spent an incredible amount of time with me”
The art of being fully present means to lock out all other distractions and give 100% of your attention to another human being. Most people allow their phones to participate in the moment…or they keep checking the time…or they start flickering their eyes towards another person who walked into the conversation. Many people allow an “intruder” to participate in the conversation. Some even allow the interruption to take priority.
The art of being fully present includes the ability to “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” Romans 12:15 Distracted people cannot participate in those emotions.
Here are some suggestions to become fully present in a conversation.
- Turn your phone on silent and totally ignore it
- Set you mind to give the other person your full and complete attention. In that moment, make them your best friend…your only friend.
- Ignore anyone who walks up at tries to interrupt. Lock them out until you have finished with the person you are talking to.
- If you can, close the door (to your office or room)
- If it is a phone conversation, then sit in your car…or walk away from the crowd
- If you have a commitment that requires you to end at a predetermined time, then set an alarm or ask someone else to interrupt when you need to stop.
- Take ownership of your mind…and fight the tendency to mentally wander.
Thanks for listening.