We have been married for 30 years and my wife is my best friend. There is no one else I would rather spend time with, whether at work or play. The trust between us is complete.
If there is a secret to our relationship, it has come from our conflict resolution skills. The most important lesson we have learned is to face our fear of conflict and truly engage to fight for (not against) each other. Here is one if the most important areas of growth for me:
I had to release my need for her to know how much she hurt me, and embrace my desire to actually solve the problem.
Can you engage in conflict so that the other person feels success, rather than defeat, when the conflict is over?
This works at home. This works in business. This works in church. This works in sports. This works in every relationship where conflict has wounded us.
Thanks for listening.