I work in an organization that is full of very talented, high capacity people. From senior leadership to the staff to the thousands of volunteers, I am constantly amazed by the creative, passionate dedication to the mission.
Sometimes, our discussions get intense – in a good way. There is synergy in the dialogue and you can almost feel the progress towards our goal. However, the magic in the room can be instantly dissipated when the wrong person speaks up. You know who they are – that person who gets caught up in the emotion and wants to help….but instead derails the whole team.
I found myself in one of those conversations today…but I was at risk of being that person. I had ideas that I wanted to offer, but I knew it might break the forward motion of the group. Why? Because my presence was due to a personal relationship, not as a member of the group. I knew that:
- The others in the discussion were the subject matter experts, not me
- The others in the discussion were focused on each other, not on me
- The others in the discussion did not invite me to contribute
When the moment came and I was invited to give my opinion, I gave it. The rest of the time I had to hold my tongue.
Thanks for listening.