I was recently honored by an invitation to speak at a local business. A friend of mine had asked me to share lessons in leadership and project management with her team. I readily agreed to come, but I nearly botched my response with this sentence:
“I am seldom asked to speak…we have such awesome communicators here at 12Stone”
When I reread the email (before hitting “send”), I saw that my attempt at humility was actually going to make things very awkward between us. She either had to agree that I was “second rate” to the other communicators…or else she had to bolster my ego and tell me how good she thinks I am. Either way, self-deprecation is not attractive in any form. Fortunately I caught myself and removed this sentence before sending the email.
When we devalue our own gifts and abilities, we are denying the work of God within us. While it is wrong to over value our personal self worth…it is also wrong to under value the beauty and importance of the talents we DO have.
Humility is the quality of being without an ego…and being modest or respectful towards others. But “false humility” is the act of deprecating one’s own value, gifts, talents, or accomplishments for the sake of receiving praise or adulation from others. It is subtle, but clear and easy to spot by others.
My challenge to you: Take an honest assessment of your strengths. Do you tend to under or over value the gifts and abilities that God has given you? Either way, its not pretty when you exaggerate.
Thanks for listening.