As a Star Trek fan…I love those moments when they are headed into battle and they raise the shields. These invisible barriers protect the ship from attack. However when the shields are up, no one can “beam down” (exit the ship). That is because the shields keep things in AND they keep things out.
For most of my life, I have approached conversations with my “shields up”. I engaged with a defensive posture…and I prepared to resist whatever attack might be coming my way. But that also means that I appear to be preparing for an attack…and it is difficult to communicate trust and reveal my heart.
Therefore, I am learning to keep my “shields down” when engaging others…and to be less defensive. I am learning to let my heart be open and vulnerable so that good communication can take place…which means there is a risk that I might get hurt .
I’m finding that – instead of escalating into conflicts – my conversations are being resolved much more peacefully than ever before.
Perhaps you should adopt a “shields down” posture as well?
Thanks for listening.