My wife’s aunt passed away last week after battling Alzheimer’s for many years. She had fought that terrible disease for nearly two decades. As she declined, her husband became her caregiver 24 hours a day. He told us that it had been years since she recognized him, but he continued to tenderly sacrifice for her daily needs.
On the night she passed, she had become terribly restless. So, he snuggled up beside of her. His presence still calmed her down and helped her to sleep. When he awoke the next morning, she had passed away. It was Valentine’s Day morning.
That is an incredible ending to their love story. But it didn’t come easy. There were years and years of struggle. A previous failed marriage. Hints of domestic violence. Rebellious kids. Broken finances. In other words – they lived a normal life.
Every day, we are writing the end of the story. Either we will persevere or we will take the easy route and quit. How about you? Are you preparing and investing for a strong ending like theirs? Or are you allowing today’s struggles to temp you to give up?
Here are a few suggestions to fight the good fight:
- Put your spouse above your kids. You can’t let them think they are more important. It doesn’t serve them (or your spouse) well.
- Experts tell us “Don’t go to bed mad”. I haven’t been successful at that one, but I can say that we fully reconcile after every argument. Don’t allow the hurt feelings to build up over time. Resolve them before they pile up and bankrupt you.
- Sacrifice daily. Sacrifice big. Make it your goal to out-give your spouse. I saw this segment on ABC where Bill from Toms River, New Jersey writes a daily love note to his wife Krissy and has done that for over 40 years.
Resolve today to have a storybook ending. Go the distance. You will be glad you did. The payoff is utterly amazing.
Thanks for listening.