I really miss Wayne Conkle. He passed away a few years ago…but I still remember many of the lessons he taught me.
One of his favorites was “I don’t want to touch [someone else’s project], because I’ll never be able to turn loose of it!” What he meant was this: Once he agreed to help someone with a task on their project, they tended to assume that he “owned” that task.
- When he agreed to transport equipment from point A to point B, others automatically assumed that he was committed to taking care of the “return trip”
- When he agreed to purchase an item from the store for their project, they assumed he was obligated to return it if they changed their mind
- When he agreed to help someone set up for their event, they usually assumed that he was also responsible for clean up (NOT TRUE)
When you ask others for help, they are not obligated to your “assumptions”. Be specific on what you are asking…even if it sounds silly to ask a bunch of follow-up questions.
Thanks for listening. Wayne, I miss you my friend!