Recently, a close friend confessed that he carried a significant amount of emotional pain. Not because of something bad that happened to him…but because of something that hasn’t happened. In spite of his massive list of accomplishments in life, he has yet to fulfill a specific dream. Unfortunately, that particular goal requires someone else to pick him for their team – and they didn’t.
I am familiar with that pain.
We opened a new campus this past weekend. It is an amazing structure…prominently poised in a new community where we will reach many people who are unaware of the God that loves them. It contains a leadership center that will train up a new generation of pastors. Amazing!
However, my first emotion when walking onto the new campus was to hurt (felt deep down on the inside) over my lack of involvement in the project. I was very aware that others were chosen to plan and carry out this particular project…and the enemy of my soul kept dominating my thoughts….telling me that my participation was insignificant.
In both situations, the pain is a distraction from the truth.
- My friends life was forever changed when he didn’t get picked. It set him on a new course that skyrocketed his career and ministry impact.
- My participation in the project was far from insignificant. Leaders in which I have invested became hero’s for their impact. My overall influence has been multiplied in the lives of others.
So, why do we allow ourselves to focus on the pain when projects and circumstances don’t appear to go our way? Doesn’t Scripture say “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28*
Why is that so difficult for you and I to embrace? Do we have difficulty trusting what God tells us?
Let’s focus on the truth that we do know (we are loved, we are valued, our lives serve God’s purpose) rather than on the pain of the unknown loss.
Thanks for listening.